In my case, I have a small communication agency as my village (small as in number of employees).
There are a lot of things going on that the people I work with have been involved in from confirming my employment a million times to fixing and cleaning my laptop and helping me with my tire problem.
My tire had a piece of metal stick out of it Thursday morning when I left for work. Read the rest of this entry
I would like to
rant vent about my peers for a moment… Let me start by saying, it is in no way our right to judge the life decisions of our peers, especially without examining our own decisions first.
I’m getting pretty sick and tired of all of the
crap commentary I’m reading from people in their 20s about getting married. I’m talking about the people who apparently think I was out of my mind for getting married soon after college.
Everyone in my age group (let’s say ages 20-25, I’m not going to cover a whole generation) are in totally different places in their lives. There’s everything from people who started working straight out of high school, to people working toward a degree and college grads with and without jobs then there are people in grad school. Some of us are married, some engaged, dating or single. Some are even parents. And we’re all about the same age. Read the rest of this entry
Our neighbors here on the second floor are mostly older. The neighbor on one side is in her 90s and the neighbor on the other side is in her 80s and we have a sweet 60-70ish Italian lady just down the hall (who I blame for making our mouths water with the amazing food smells in her section of the hall). These ladies are sweethearts, they all kind of take care of each other and have developed an interest in me.
The other day, we were expecting a couple of friends and had just returned home from work so the apartment door was unlocked. I was in the kitchen loading the dishwasher when I heard the apartment door open. Thinking someone downstairs had simply held the door open for our friends, I called out a bright, “Hello!” while closing the dishwasher and turning around to find my 80-something neighbor in mid-startle. She had been looking down at whatever she was carrying that she had gone a door too far and wandered right into our apartment.
She was utterly embarrassed and apologetic, but the situation was just too funny. When we relayed the story to one of our other neighbors in the hall the next day she said, “I was looking down and didn’t even see the pretty wreath that would have told me I wasn’t at my own door and then when I saw that big television, I knew I was in the wrong place!”
That’s when they found out that I make my wreaths. These ladies are unobtrusive, so I haven’t
complained written about them before like I did with the young men upstairs. They say hello to me in the hallway, make sure to let us know when there might have been a flood in the storage room and compliment every decoration I put on our door.
So now the pressure is on to make a new creative wreath for spring. Feel free to share ideas with me on Pinterest!
In the past, I’ve been proud of my ability to Christmas shop for people throughout the year and am usually finished with my major shopping by the 1st of December. This year is very different.
I held off on buying Christmas presents for most of the year because it was our first Christmas as a married couple and productive working citizens instead of “poor college students.” I thought it’d be easier because I’d have Brad to help me out and I’d be able to expand the Christmas shopping budget. Although those things are true, Christmas shopping is much more difficult this year.
I put it off too much. Because of delaying the start of shopping, I feel much more rushed this year because I didn’t do any shopping in the rest of the year. We still have several people on our list to find gifts for.
There’s not enough time in a day. Neither of us consistently leave work at 5:00, we stay until the job is done. Then Brad has an unpredictable commute home so we never know when we can start shopping on weekday evenings. And our weekends during this season tend to fill up quickly.
It’s weird. Shopping this year is weird for many reasons. I don’t go shopping without Brad most of the time because I don’t always see things and think of which of his family members would like it. We were shopping last week and he saw something that I would have never looked at twice and said, “Don’t you think my great-grandma would like this?’ She definitely would like it, but I wouldn’t have thought about her when I saw it. I may be a part of the family, but I’m still learning about little likes and dislikes. It’s also weird (and a little tough) because every single time I go shopping, I see at least one thing that would have made a great present for my dad. For Christmases past, he had been a tough person to shop for. It’s funny how you see things that would be perfect for someone when you no longer buy them presents (for whatever reason).
Online shopping isn’t my thing. You may have started thinking while reading my
excuses list above: she should just shop online. Online shopping is fantastic! If you know what you want to give someone. But if you don’t have a clue, like me, seeing things sometimes makes it easier to pick something out. That and I tend to think too much.
Other notes about gifts
If you are on our Christmas shopping list, rest assured that, even if it’s purchased close to the wire, it was pick out with you in mind. Also, if I wrap a present for you, I selected wrapping paper and a gift tag that I think you might like. Lots of care and thought goes into gift giving.
Is Christmas shopping easy for you?
With Thanksgiving coming up in a few weeks, I thought today I could take a moment to share with all of you what things (great and small) that I’m feeling thankful for.
- My loving husband who supports and cares for me
- Seat heaters on chilly mornings
I’m not the type of person to dwell on the past and I’m very happy with where I am in life… But sometimes I do miss college.
- Being able to nap between classes
- Walking across campus on a beautiful day
Good and diabetes don’t usually go in the same sentence, but a good friend of mine said this to me the other day:
“If anything good could come out of your diabetes, it’s that I think I’ve realized maybe I should start taking care of my own blood sugar. So thank you.”
My friend is not diabetic and she’s not the only one making changes because of my condition. Many of my friends and family members are making healthier choices (at least when I’m around). When I pull out my book or open up my iPhone app to choose a restaurant, I often get quizzed on the carb, calorie, fat and sugar content of the meals my companions want to order.
Brad and I recently became Clevelanders!
We moved from a small house into a large apartment over Labor Day weekend. My family was certified nomadic when I was growing up and we always moved by way of “Friends and Family Moving Co.” as my mom called it. When you move without the pros helping you out, there are some things that
usually always happen. Read the rest of this entry
…. but you can pick your friends.
I don’t normally get super personal on here unless I’m talking about my dad. But today, I’ve decided to share a recent revelation of mine having to do with family vs. friends.
You have no choice in the people you have as relatives, even if you don’t get along with them you’re supposed to try to be nice to them/love them/put up with their crap. I have a family member, whom I love, but have decided that my life is better without her in it (for now).
When you know someone who is in an emotionally abusive or oppressive romantic relationship, you encourage them to get out. Right? Well, after years of verbal and emotional abuse from this relative, I’ve decided to “break up” with her for my own mental health (as well as to relieve family tension).
I have been on the receiving end of negative comments, snide remarks, jealous accusations and outright verbal warfare from this lady for many years now, but the situation escalated when she started reaming my friends and insulting them in general. She was attacking my friends, ladies who had chosen to be like family to me and that just wasn’t fair.
I have a few girlfriends who I value much like sisters and throughout the years, they have been sisterly toward me and I have stepped into a sister role with them as well (none of them actually have sisters). They chose me and I chose them.
You can usually count on at least some of your family members to be there for you (and I can, don’t worry). But you can always count on the people who have adopted you into their lives the way that my surrogate sisters have.
My decision to “break up” with a family member broke my heart, but is ultimately better for my emotional health. And since she is family, when our relationship is in a healthier perspective, it will be easier to mend when both parties are willing.